If you think the only people doing meth are the psychos on Breaking Bad, I’m so sorry to burst your bubble. *gets off high horse and goes back to messaging daddies on Scruff* 7.
I’m not here to judge, but it’s really important to make sure you and your partner are on the same page, because there are real potential consequences if you’re not careful. “BB” is short for bareback sex, also known as having anal without a condom. Talk all you want about how much better it feels, blah blah blah, whatever. Just like straight guys, gay men just love not using condoms. I’m not the one to explain how the science works, but PrEP reduces your chances of contracting HIV by 92%, which is pretty incredible. While straight people have been slow to learn about it (what else is new?), it’s become common practice in the gay community. Of course, condoms are still very effective, and it’s always advisable to use them, but why limit yourself? In the last few years, a new HIV-prevention method called PrEP (Pre-exposure prophylaxis) has become widely available. Speaking of protection, we’ve come a long way. This isn’t the ’80s, and you’re not a character in RENT. The chance of an undetectable person transmitting the virus to you is extremely low, so just use protection like you normally would. Many people living with HIV today have “undetectable” status, which means that the virus is at such low levels that blood tests don’t even detect it. “Poz” is the most common way of self-identifying as HIV positive, and you really shouldn’t block someone just because you see it in their profile. As a member of the gay community, you owe it to yourself to be at least a little informed, and not be ignorant or offensive. “DDF” is an easy question to ask, but it’s not really giving you all the information you need.Īs I said, there’s a real stigma in our society about HIV and AIDS.
Just because they say they don’t have any STIs or drug habits isn’t a free pass to not use protection. There’s also no way to know if the other person is being honest. First of all, it perpetuates the stigma of HIV (more on that in a minute), which is already a huge problem in the LGTBQ community. When you’re talking to someone on the apps, it’s common for them to ask if you’re “DDF.” This stands for “drug and disease free,” and it’s a little bit problematic. An otter is kind of like a bear, in that he’s pretty hairy, but skinnier. You probably know about bears and twinks at this point, but otters are a little more confusing.
In the gay community, you might be the one getting smashed. In the real world, otters are adorable little animals who smash open sea urchins with rocks. If someone says they’re looking, don’t waste your time striking up polite conversation about their hobbies and interests.
This one probably isn’t too difficult to figure out, but there’s no harm in explaining. Whether you’re a gay guy looking to brush up on your culture, or a girl who doesn’t want to ask her gay friend any problematic questions (we appreciate you!), this is all you need to know. There’s no shame in wanting to learn, so I’ve picked out nine gay sex terms and concepts that can be confusing, even if you’re not a novice on the apps. I’ve been out for the better part of a decade, and I still regularly find myself using Urban Dictionary to translate Grindr profiles that are essentially not written in English. class probably did less than nothing to prepare you for it. The world of gay sex and dating is basically a total nightmare, and your high school sex ed. Of course, there’s the societal prejudice and the ongoing battle for equal rights, but that’s not all we have to deal with. I’ll be the first one to say it: being gay can be pretty hard.